Lobe den Tag

"We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if i mary him, if i get into college, if i get this work accepted, if i get the job" - there always seems to loom the possibility of something being over, settled, sweeping clear the way for contentment. this is the delusion of a passive life." Carolyn Gold Heilbrun This is the second time, I have been reading Writing a Woman's life by Carolyn Heilbrun and again I thoroughly enjoyed it, more than enjoyed: it inspired me and gave me many things to ponder. For example: did I spend my years in the delusion of a passive life? How liberated are young women today really? How liberated am I, really, and what is keeping me from freedom? Men, the environment, my children or also something inside of me, a believe-system, I have maybe inherited, but also never torn to pieces, despite my ability to think and my, supposedly, quite independent mind? Should we all be feminists? (Y E S!) Why is it, that so ...

..but you can not write an entire book about your irritation. You’d probably be depressed after 10 pages into it (which I am) I have been irritated ever since I started the book and yet, never could let go. I threw away pages and pages and pages, again and again and again, but I still have the idea and about 500 pages of material. Growing. The first idea I had was: I want to write a book about women. Good. No, rather not good. It irritated me how many women my age or even 10 years younger were stuck in unhappy situations. So I knew, this novel might become sort of a feminist book. I was irritated right away, and embarrassed, just thinking about the reactions to it by, say: men. I would lose friends I'd never had, that one was for sure. By the way: its Gloria Steinems 81 st birthday today! Most women (maybe even all women) I knew had children and were in relationships and they did approximately 85% of the housework (rather more), on top of that fulfilling the perfect...